Stop Making Excuses

Excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent. Used to build monuments of nothingness. Those who excel in it seldom excel in anything else but excuses.

You must know that making excuses is normal for humans – we are social people, and we care what others think about us. Rather than face uncomfortable conversations and feelings, we make excuses and avoid responsibility.
People who make excuses may feel happy in the moment, because they’ve avoided a bit of pain through the fit in approach. But In the long-term they will be less fulfilled and can feel depressed.

Why people make excuses? And how can you stop making excuses?

WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE EXCUSES?

The top 3 reasons for people making excuses are: Fear, uncertainty, or lack of purpose. To stop making excuses, you must find out which one applies to you.

1. FEAR

Fear is the top one emotion, that pushes you to make excuses. Fear can come in many forms. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of embarrassment, fear of responsibility and much more. It isn’t easy to stop making excuses and face your fears, but it can be done.

2. UNCERTAINTY

One of our most powerful needs in life is certainty, we strive to avoid pain and seek out things that we know will bring us pleasure, which means staying in our comfort zone. This need drives our decision. Once you try to get out of your comfort zone and the uncertainty pops up, our brains prefer making excuses over dealing with uncertainty. But you can override these impulses and stop making excuses.

3. NO PURPOSE

One more reason for making excuses can be linked to being lazy or uninspired. And this can be a reason that you haven’t yet discovered your purpose. Focus on finding your passion and naturally you will stop making excuses.

HOW TO STOP MAKING EXCUSES ?

1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Start by taking control of your life. No matter what has happened in the past, your future is up to you, your choices, and your actions.

2. SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE

Look at problems as opportunities, not obstacles.

3. IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS & ELIMINATE THEM

People who make excuses likely have certain limiting beliefs that are holding them back. These are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. If you believe deep down that you’re not deserving of success or that you don’t have the inner strength to overcome failure, you’ll continue making excuses to avoid going after what you really want.

4. CHANGE YOUR INNER STORY

After identifying your limiting beliefs, you can change your story and stop making excuses. Identify your negative self-talk and replace them with empowering ones.

5. LEARN THE LESSON INSTEAD OF BEATING YOURSELF

Generally, people make mistakes and blame others, and never learn the lesson. Successful people always look for the lesson and apply it to future actions and decisions.

6. AVOID OVERTHINKING

Many people who make excuses suffer from what is called “analysis paralysis.” To stop making excuses, you must stop overthinking, let go of the past and take massive action that will take you to your desired future.

7. CREATE & DEFINE YOUR VISION

If you don’t jump out of bed in the morning to pursue your dreams and goals, then I am sure you are making lots of excuses. You must define a powerful vision that you’ll be proud to follow and never make excuses again.

8. SET YOUR GOALS & BUILD YOUR PLANS

You can’t hit a target if you don’t aim. Discovering your purpose is valuable, transforming your vision into goals and actionable plans is the first step in turning the vision into a reality. Working toward actionable goals forces you to stop making excuses.

9. GET SUPPORT & ACCOUNTABILITY

The last thing to stop making excuses is to hold yourself accountable for your actions. Get support from a trusted friend or your significant other. Better yet, find a mentor or a coach. They’ll have the experience and training needed to keep you accountable, productive, and progressing.

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